Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Hang Out Type: Solo
Last night five mile walked it on a very chilly but lovely night over the Brooklyn Bridge (finally) zig zagging all the way up to 42nd trying to show my friend Joe (first timer to the city) my favorite aspects of the Manhattan skyline and scenic avenues. Jaunts through Manhattan always make me fall in love again with New York. This city has made me mature in a new way, my life here forcing me to be in a state of solitude at school, in work, and at home. Having come of age in several small town tight knit punk scenes, this transition into adulthood over the last few years on my own in academia were a little tough. Here in this city of millions you have to turn lonely to alone or you won't quite pull through. This shit is about survival and once you're surviving here you realize you have it in you and you've had it in you all along. Much of my first intentional alone time here in NYC has been long walks (mostly through my old beautiful hood of Washington Heights) because there is just so much to see. Asides from long walks I will throw in the occasional movie, museum visit or class (took a First Aid class in January that was hilariously entertaining for me). You get to interact with other people, strangers as momentary friends, but not within the context of a pre-existing relationship but just as yourself. Too much time with others makes my alone time about being too depleted and exhausted to do much of anything but stare at a screen. As much as I enjoy catching up on Walking Dead I'd rather be being slightly more productive with some letter writing, drawing, or physical activity. So it is important to schedule those alone hang outs just as much as it is to schedule time for your family and friends. In the end being comfortable hanging out with yourself is inherent to hanging out with others. Strength in self is what is the base for positively fostering any dynamic between yourself and another human.
What do you like to do alone?
*Bobo-in Spanish silly/stupid/foolish. In Southern Glorianese-kinda someone who is all of those things but maybe also a selfish ass.
New black and white photos courtesy of my friend Tate.